Is something we all struggle with.

Have you ever wondered why?

It’s because we value being liked way more than being respected.

Now I know many of you will read that and think, not that’s not really me. But, the truth is what you think (about yourself) and how you act are at odds more often than not.

If you want to say ‘Yes’ to life, you’ve gotta say ‘No’ to all that isn’t.

Its not possible to live full and focused life while also doom scrolling away to distractions.

The question you’ve really got to ask yourself is are you a Dopamine junkie, looking for quick hits throughout the day and killing yourself one second at a time in the process?

Or are you someone harnessing the power of the happy hormones to live at your peak potential?

The most successful people said ‘No’ almost all the time. Jonathan Ive, who designed some of Apple’s best products shares his learnings from Steve Jobs on saying No and the meaning of focus.

Another Individual who’s known for focusing on one thing for Decades and has written a book about when to say Yes and No to what’s on offer is Derek Sivers. I find his framework quite helpful in making this binary decision.

I found this system to be most effective in saying No. I’ve used it parts of it myself quite often. The best part it still allows you to maintain a healthy relationship going forward with burning the bridges just because you wanted to focus.

So the next time opportunity knocks on the door, don’t be wishy washy with it but be FOCUSED.